What is grief and why do we suffer?
Grief is a natural response to a loss. It is the emotional suffering we feel when we are disconnected and separated from what we hold dear and close to our hearts.
What we fail to recognize is that sorrow is caused by our limiting beliefs and our past negative experiences. There is a period to grieve and release emotions that come up, and it doesn’t have to last a lifetime.
Complete healing from grief is possible with proper support and coaching!
What is “From Heartbreak to Happiness”®?
“From Heartbreak to Happiness”® coaching is a 9 step coaching program that combines cognitive healing processes with proven holistic methods of healing grief. This balance provides our clients who are seeking a spiritual and real world ways of mind and body healing to go “From Heartbreak to Happiness”®
“No one can pull themselves out of a well. A coach is someone who shines a flashlight into the well. She lets you know you are not alone. She throws down a rope ladder and helps you climb out of the grief step by step.”
Aurora Winter, Grief Relief Workbook
“Dear Zoya, I’m writing this testimonial to let you know how I have enjoyed working with you during this period of loss and grief in my life . You are such a gift and I’ve looked forward to our session each week. You have such insight and compassion and how you have truly helped to heal my pain. I recommend you as a grief coach, a gift in someone’s life as you have been in mine. Thank you Zoya, Blessings always.”
Healing Grief, Understanding the process
“You are here to experience life, to learn and to bring about all that has not been manifested by the one, that’s how important you are.” - Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now
Grief, love, fear and happiness are all pieces of this puzzle. We pick up negative thoughts going through different stages of life and these negative thoughts keep us stuck with limitations. When we lose someone or something that we held close to our hearts, our world is shaken. This is the time that limitations from the past keep us in the past and keep us from healing the present grief. Some people keep their grief because they think this is the only way to show their love for the person who died and to keep their memories alive.
The first step toward healing is releasing these limitations, bringing love and compassion to our bodies and minds. Now, with an open heart, we can start to work on healing the grief that we are feeling in the present time. In other words, releasing the past gives you access to the present and the inner peace that you need in order to heal.
Apart from being born, death is the only other experience of life that we all must face and go through. - Abraham-Hicks
Knowledge is POWER!
Dying and grief are often light-hearted as Abraham teaches us that death is a joyous occasion. The majority of people view death as fearful and of great sadness, but through the teachings of Abraham, and others, more and more people are understanding that we are Eternal Beings and death is only a transition, a letting go, a re-alignment with our true selves.
Release shame, blame and regrets so you can lighten the sorrow and get off the roller coaster of emotional pain.
You are whole, complete and perfect just the way you are and EVEN IN ALL THE ways you THINK YOU are not.
Time may not heal all wounds
Grief is a natural part of life—it’s the human experience to grieve; and, we will go through it at one time or another. Grief can be caused by any type of separation, such as divorce, job loss, chronic illness, and loss of a loved one. Is it possible to shorten the time we grieve? According to an article in TIME Magazine, people typically suffer grief for 5-8 years after experiencing a loss, especially the death of a loved one who was very close to us. Without receiving proper grief support, this time can take longer; for some, it may even last a lifetime. What tribute to your loved one could your life, well lived, become?
Complete acceptance of your heartbreak is a great way to start the healing process!
One of the reasons for feeling lonely when we are grieving is ruminating in negative thoughts and stories from the past. When you are supported by a “Healing With Compassion” coach, you will release your painful thoughts and start focusing on positive events or actions. Just like painting a new picture on an empty canvas, you will start creating a new way of life that inspires you. Feelings of loneliness and lack of self-confidence disappear. Instead, you begin to regain a state of well being, which leaves room for joy and happiness to return.
The proper way to heal Grief!
Grief is not a welcomed word. Hearing it may cause some people to cringe. For most, dealing with it is the last thing they want to think about or experience. So, we tend to rush through it, pushing away the natural feelings that are coming up. Ignoring them, we become impatient and angry with ourselves; we want to be done with it!
At Healing With Compassion, we address the tension and anxiety associated with the grieving process, dealing with these emotions can actually shorten the process and make them disappear.
Grief Healing starts with your decision and commitment to get there, you always have a choice. I made the choice.
The power of mind is amazingly strong, even though according to sources we only use 10% of it. At any moment, we can choose to heal no matter how deep we feel the sorrow.
Choosing to heal!
I remember the night that I decided to heal my grief. It was one of those nights that started with sobbing. Each moment getting deeper into my grief, my only focus was on how much I missed my son. The feeling was so strong that I felt my heart was going to stop…and then I thought of my son.What if he was there with me? What if he was able to feel what I was feeling? What if I was hurting him (with my pain and sorrow)? And what if my heart did stop? What would that do to my mother and my family? They didn’t deserve a double-tragedy. In that moment I decided that I would find a way to heal my heartbreak. And…my heart started to beat at a normal rate, my breathing started to flow and I felt the release that I needed to fall asleep. The next day, I started taking actions towards my healing process. I started meditation, working out at the local gym and signed up for Art classes at a local studio. Drawing was always a dream of mine and I saw this as a chance to make it a reality. And above all of these actions, I gradually learned to open my heart to give and receive the love that I had stored in it for my son.
Wherever you are with your grief at this moment, it is the right place to be.
Just know that you have the power to heal your sadness and sorrow at any moment. Healing can take place to mend your broken heart and to fill that big gap in your soul. Possibilities are waiting to open up for you when your focus shifts to living instead of on dying. When grief interrupts your life to the point that you cannot function or thrive, that is a good time to seek guidance.
Zoya Bokhoor-Mills